Courage, strength, pride -Paras, I hear these words so often
when people talk about sexuality and openness. I hear
words like acceptance and identity so much in the
context of gender identity and sexual preferences. But,
have you ever considered that these words are never a
part of the so called “Straight society”?
Because this is where we’ve already drawn a mental line
and told ourselves that the ‘alternative’ is what needs
strength. Yes, the alternative. And till the time this
mindset will exist, nothing will change and a lot of people
will keep suffering in the closet.
Paras,People are always amazed at how I don’t have a “coming
out” story and it’s most certainly not a tear-jerker.
There’s never any talk of me coming out to terms with
anything that seemed different or out of the ordinary.
At the serious risk of giving myself too much credit and
citing my own example, I would (somewhat immodestly)
like to share how the struggle sometimes isn’t real.
And my story worth sharing is, that I’ve never had one.
That’s been my biggest strength. It’s been so usual, so
normal and so mundane that “coming out” wasn’t a
thing for me. I never had to jump out of a box or make
Paras,my dad sit and hold his hand and speak. I didn’t need to
gather the courage to tell him about something that’s
been eating me from inside forever. I remember telling
my dad I was dating this guy who’d come back from
Canada and that he was adorable. I remember my dad
saying “oh” and he heard that story just like any of my
previous stories that involved women. I remember only a
few years later that he wasn’t thrilled about it, certainly
not upset, but he wasn’t about to be part of Gay Parade.
But here again, I give myself a tremendous amount of
credit, my oblivion is what made everyone around me
give me no trouble at all. Also, as a matter of fact, I knew
that there was no room left for debate and I certainly
never asked, begged, or worked hard for approval. And
that’s my story. Boring, right? Perfect! In my opinion, the
more people stop choosing from boxes which say
“Gay/Straight/Bi”, the closer we are to a world where we
focus on larger issues, because quite frankly, where I
stick my penis is only that important for the rest of the
world. And when people will stop caring about this that is
when we would hit that g-spot. And then there will be no
pride, glory or strength in telling mum that you have a
boyfriend (for the boys) and a girlfriend (for the girls).
And that is where we are heading and need to focus upon.
I know it’s not easy, but definitely not impossible!
We can and we will be there soon!
Big Pucchi!
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